Category Archives: Life
Former NHL forward Stephan Lebeau joined the podcast in February, and we discussed his hockey career and the prospects of seeing the Montreal Canadiens win another Stanley Cup. In closing, we wished the Canadiens luck in the 2020-21 NHL season. At the time, they were 9-4-2 and were the second-place team in the division. Since the episode aired, they have won just once (losing six of seven, including five in a row) while dropping back-to-back games to the lowly Ottawa Senators. They have since fired their coach. What a turnaround… or did we jinx the Habs? (Similarly, when the Pittsburgh Steelers were 11-0, my guest Adrian Brijbassi talked about their chances of going undefeated. After that episode aired, Pittsburgh won only one game and was eliminated in the playoffs by…. Cleveland!! Ouch!)
As mentioned in the episode, I very rarely discuss sports with others because they simply don’t want to hear anything other than their own opinions. So, it was a good chance to talk about them with Jason Takefman. It is, after all, my own platform to voice my opinions.
I’m sure the writers meant Boston, Buffalo, Philadelphia, PITTSBURGH, Washington and all three New York teams—with those last three teams being the ones in the NY metropolitan area, which are the Rangers, Islanders and NEW JERSEY.
Or, at the very least, the three NY teams might be the Rangers, Islanders and BUFFALO—if the writers are referring to teams by state specifically. In either case, they left out Pittsburgh and mentioned Buffalo and New Jersey separately. If I were a Penguins fan—and I’m not—I’d be upset about the omission.
Doesn’t anyone proofread anymore? After all, the credits reference one ESPN writer and the AP.
The year 2020 has been challenging for everybody, of course, and I’m not going to downplay that.
For me as a writer, it has been tough because I am one who relies on being out of the home in order to have the creativity to write — and motivation to do my research and keep writing.
Being stuck indoors hasn’t helped. I had a Barry Bonds manuscript that was due on December 1, 2020. I couldn’t finish and asked for an extention. I was given until December 24th. Finally, with the week of December 21st being a reduced work schedule thanks to the Christmas holidays, I was able to compelte the manuscript at last today, Wednesday, December 23rd. The manuscript and photo information have been sent to the publisher. What a relief!
There’s a quote someone once said that resonates with me. It goes along the lines of “Be careful of those that clap when you lose.”
Conversely, I would say be careful of those who don’t clap when you win.
When I was younger, I was very quite and didn’t like to talk. It’s because I was shy. Having grown up, I realize that not everybody who doesn’t talk is shy. It’s just that they don’t want to talk to you.
Someone could ask me what I’m working on, which, to me, is an invitation for me to actually discuss it. But the same person who then interrupts before I’m even done talking about it, is akin to the people who don’t clap when you win. I always find it fascinating that people might be so interested in how celebrities are doing but couldn’t give you the time of day. That, to me, tells me I shouldn’t respond to them either.
We could be standing on the side of the road waiting for a mutual friend, and I would be trying to make conversation — but it’s clear the fella’s more interested in his cigarette. Naturally, when our mutual friend does arrive, Mr. Cigarette suddenly is chatty. That’s fine. I get it.
Or, it could be a case where another fella wants to talk, but doesn’t seem to care even if he’s told the same story multiple times. I cordially say I’ve heard that one already – but the guy insists on continuing. Of course, when I do share my story, the same fella cuts me off and says he’s heard that before. Or that he has heard enough of the story to know what the ending’s going to be, and doesn’t want to hear anymore. Okay. Good to know.
Someone could ask me to reach out if I ever had a problem, and then when I do take the same person up for the offer, I become persona non grata. It’s like, people say “Call me if you need anything” just for the sake of saying it or making him/herself look good, but may not actually mean it. I very rarely, if ever, share what’s on my mind (when it comes to challenges in life), so if I do share something, it means it’s something I’d like assistance with.
What’s worse, there are those who do want to listen — but there’s an end game for them. I’ll be offered a service to solve my problems — at a hefty price. Uhm, no thanks. I can figure things out on my own instead of forking out $750 (I’m not kidding) for you to research the answer and give it to me at a later date. The irony is I’m told the person has expertise in that particular area — and yet needs to spend that much time to research the info and give it to me.
But it’s okay. You just learn whom to cut ties with and whom to lean on. You just learn to cut ties with those who give negative vibes, those who, essentially, regard you as persona non grata.